Tuesday, December 6, 2011

Own your personal journey!!

Ever heard a statement like this from someone:
I have a friend who had surgery with Dr. X and she has gained all of her weight back so I don’t want to see Dr. X but my co-worker had surgery with Dr. Y and she is doing great so I’m going to Dr. Y. 
How about the conversation where we compare ourselves to other WLS patients and their success??
One thing about WLS is that we have to own our journey! Surgeons give us a physical tool dietitians give us the nutritional tool but it's up to us to use those tools to the best of their ability. You could line 10 of Dr. X’s & Dr. Y’s patients up who had the exact same surgery around the same time and no two would be exactly alike. Every day we have a choice!! If we choose to not follow the proper nutritional guidelines, not change our behaviors, not make a lifelong lifestyle change and commit to taking care of our "tool" we have to own it.

My thought for you today is don’t make other WLS stories your own....the person sitting next to you at group who has gained weight, the person you read about who eats sugar and doesn't dump so why not have donuts for breakfast and pie for dessert but complains that they have never gotten to goal, the person who eats bread 3x a day and never works out, the one who has never taken a vitamin because their labs were good at the 2 year mark and at 5 years have vitamin deficiency and are hospitalized then go back to the surgeon and say this surgery failed me.  Is that truly a surgeon/surgery issue?
Don't let someones story become yours.  Make your own story! 
 Remind yourself this is a personal journey. This is YOUR journey.
You are not "them" and you can choose how to make this work for YOU!!!!

Monday, November 14, 2011

Bias Busters & OAC help us put an END to weight bias!

If you haven't joined the Obesity Action Coalition yet my first question is WHY??? But let me show you one more reason to join!  You need to check out the Bias Busters page to see the next level of action we are taking.  Here is a bit of information from the site:

Welcome to “Bias Busters.” Weight bias is the last acceptable form of discrimination in today’s society. Each day, individuals affected by obesity are stigmatized in a variety of settings, such as work, school, health care, pop culture and more. Unfortunately, little is done to combat this stigmatization and even more damaging, the public often fails to recognize this stigmatization because we are conditioned to seeing it for years.

And, that is why "Bias Busters" is now here - to put an END to weight bias!

SO what are you waiting for???
Click on the link below and
join us in making a difference!!



Tuesday, October 18, 2011

Four Year Surgiversary.....

Today I am celebrating my 4 year surgiversary of my RNY Gastric Bypass! Looking back into my pre-op life I remember reading stories about what people were doing after weight loss surgery and imagining how my post op life would look.  I could not wait to start shedding my excess weight because it would solve so many of my issues.  Life would be good and Handful Harry would never show his ugly face again. I was morbidly obese/miserable and was convinced that the grass was greener on the other side because society told me I was outside of the norm.  It was my impression that being “normal” was the gold standard of happiness. 

I always knew that surgery was not the easy way out and that making a lifelong lifestyle change would be hard.  After all of my research, chatting in the forums and attending support group for 2-years I truly felt educated and prepared for life after surgery. 
I’ve come to realize that no matter how much I researched, investigated, talked to patients etc. nothing can fully prepare you for what happens mentally, physically and spiritually until you have gone through the process. 
This journey has introduced me to an amazing community of bariatric professionals and fellow patients who have given me a world of support.   I’ve learned that this is a very individual journey and part of my journey is discovering what works for me.
Things that ring true for me:
·         Handful Harry still shows his ugly head and I deal with him minute by minute, hour by hour and day by day

·         Size/Shape/Weight does not define who I am

·         My journey is personal,  I have to own it and do what works for me

·         I’m human, I make mistakes and I’m not perfect

·         Every day I have the opportunity to make healthy choices

I’m truly grateful for those of you who have touched my life and shared this journey with me.  If it wasn’t for you I would be the person I am today!  MUAH…  (((HUG)))

Monday, August 15, 2011

Moments that take our breath away...

Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take,
but by the moments that take our breath away!

That is probably one of my most favorite quotes...

Those who have followed my blog for a while know that my WLS journey has been eventful and challenging at times.  I've been asked more than once why I chose to have bariatric surgery and if I regretted my decision because of my complications/obstacles. 

We all have different reasons why we chose this path and like many things in life, for me it's the little things! Football season recently started again for the elementary kids so the past two weeks have included practice two days a week and Saturday game times.   

Saturday I was reminded again what this journey has allowed me to do..

Having the ability to carry shoulder pads and a helmet, water cooler, chairs and walking up and down the field without stopping every few feet. There was no stopping every few feet to catch my breath, no racing heart, no sweat pouring down my forehead or the thought that if I took one more step I would collapse!

Sharing the energy with him before each game, seeing the elation on his face after each tackle and being there when he looks for me cheering him on in the crowd....

These are some of my most precious breath taking moments... 



Tuesday, August 2, 2011

Family Eating Habits - How do we change them?

I recently wrote an article in the summer 2011 Your Weight Matters magazine for the OAC. We all struggle with poor eating habits at some point and this is about trying  different approaches.  Enjoy!

In today’s fast paced world, many of us consume food in a very different manner and time frame due to time constraints brought on by our professional/personal commitments. Families are busy with different social functions, school/church events, sports, appointments and the list continues to grow. The convenience of food is continually growing and can be found on any street corner at a fast food chain or your local convenient store.

Then there are the times our minds tell us we don’t have enough time to prepare a healthy well-balanced meal. We say things like, “I don’t have time to cook,” and “Eating healthy is too expensive and healthy food doesn’t taste as good.” All of these factors can lead to poor family eating habits. What about those meals you prepare and believe you are making a healthy choice? How do you identify if your family’s eating habits are poor?

Fun Ideas on How to Change Your Family’s Poor Eating Habits

IDEA #1: Tell your family you want to do an experiment for a week about the family’s eating habits and you need their assistance. Be creative and give each family member a fun pad of paper or create something simple on your computer to print off along with their favorite color pen. Come up with a prize to work toward at the end of the experiment, such as a sleepover with friends and movie night, new CD/DVD, day at the pool with friends, or a canoe/camping trip.

Start by asking them to write down what they think about the family’s overall eating habits. Do they think the family has good or bad habits, and why? Ask each family member to write down their meals and snacks throughout the next week, the environment while eating (in the car, in front of the TV, standing at the counter, cleaning my plate because mom told me to) and what they do after each meal or snack (took a nap, walked the dog, played basketball, etc.).

At the end of the week, everyone will pass their entries to another family member for review. The goal is to highlight any repeated poor eating habits within the week. Here are some red flags to look for:

  • Eating a limited variety of foods
  • Indulging in too many foods like soft drinks, doughnuts, chips, candy or ice cream
  • Not including all food groups such as vegetables
  • Skipping breakfast

Ask everyone to give feedback on any items they highlighted and why they identified those as poor habits, then what a healthier choice would be.

IDEA #2: As a family, make a list of healthy meal/snack choices and post the list in a visible space for everyone to see. Then, make a list of all the recognized poor eating habits and ideas on how to change those to healthy eating habits. Decide together which family members deserve recognition and earn prizes on things such as:

  • Identifying the poorest eating habits
  • Providing healthier choices
  • Creative ways to change those habits

At the end of the week, ask each family member the same question you did before the experiment started. Do they think the family has good or bad habits, and why? Then compare both answers.

Create a plan of action on how to replace the poor eating habits and what other changes will help promote healthy eating habits.

Make this a fun project by including all family members and assigning tasks they enjoy. For example, purchase a bright colored poster board/trifold science board and create a title that fits your family. Make it visual by cutting out pictures of healthy foods, asking someone to be creative and decorate the board, create a healthy food list, list new habits to promote change and keep it visible in the kitchen as a reminder for the family.

Sample Changes to Help You Get Started

Here is a list to help get you started on some changes to promote healthy eating habits:

  1. Keep only healthy food options in your home. Have a family participation session to “purge the pantry” and remove all items not on your healthy list.
  2. Pick a specific time frame each night and agree to designate this as “family dinner time” with no interruptions.
  3. Make it a habit to sit together at a kitchen or patio table to encourage the importance of doing this together as a family.
  4. Slow down – it takes our minds 20 minutes to catch up with our stomachs. Practice putting your fork down between bites to force yourself to eat at a more leisurely pace. Engage in conversation as another way to slow your pace of eating.
  5. Stop eating when you feel full. The “clean your plate” mentality will lead to extra unnecessary calories in your body.

Ask each person to pick a day of the week and create a healthy meal plan and then help by preparing the meal. Make it fun by adding a theme, (Mexican, American, Italian, etc.) researching the Internet for healthy recipes or a specific color and use paper/plastic (cups, utensils, plates, napkins) to set the table.

Be creative, have fun and step out of your comfort zone while tasting new healthy food items. By encouraging your family to stay involved and repeating these behaviors, their healthy eating will become a daily habit!